Beeeep: Signs Your Sex Life Is Flatlining

You should always put your best foot forward — especially when it comes to having sex.  An unhealthy sex life isn't doing you any favors, but you may not even realize that that's the case.  Keep reading to find out signs your sex life is flatlining.

You channel surf right after sex. If your orgasm shuts you down, then you may be losing your sexual drive. A sexual experience should last even after climaxing. Cuddle, hang out, sweet talk... just don't grab the remote.

Same old, same old. Instead of spicing things up in the bedroom, you've become comfortable with routine. It's safe and it gets you off. Unfortunately, that's not hot, it's not exciting and it's bound to dry you up faster than a puddle in a drought.

Your sex toys are gathering dust. You don't have to be a total sex maniac, but whipping out a dildo or some fuzzy handcuffs every now and then to bring into the bedroom won't hurt. When you ignore your sex toys, you cast your bedroom in a cloud of sexless gloom.

Your sex schedules are off. When partners have sex, it's best when their schedules are in sync. Otherwise, it can become difficult to do the deed. If you're not even bothering trying to sync your schedules, that's saying a lot.

Grooming has become a thing of the past. If you're with someone, they'll love you with or without a bush. The thing is, though, it never hurts to surprise them. If you're single, then you either have a type or you just don't care anymore.

You'd rather binge on Netflix than go out. When you're out, there's a decent chance you'll find someone who's just as DTF as you are. When you're in, it's not as likely. It's also a good sign that you just don't care anymore.

You'd rather eat than have sex. A lot of people can relate to this, but usually on a comical level. They take it lightly. But you honestly could care less if you ever get laid again. You just want to kick back with your pizza and go down on that mozzarella.

You hate when friends bring up sex. This means you'll have to talk about sex. But you don't want to talk about sex. You're tired of sex. You're not feeling sex. Everything's always about sex. Sex, sex, sex.

You make the excuse that you're too busy for sex. It's understandable that sometimes sex needs to take a backseat to life, but it shouldn't disappear altogether. There's no way that you're too busy to take your pants off and rub your genitals on someone else's. That's just hogwash.

You masturbate when your partner's not around. Maybe it's because you're bored or maybe it's because you don't feel like putting in the effort for actual sex. Whatever the reason may be, you still end alone and playing with yourself instead of becoming intimate with another human.

You're never up for experiencing. You'll never know if you like something until you've tried it. That applies especially to sex. For some reason, however, you never push the boundaries. You play everything close to the chest, as though you're afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone.

You hardly put effort into your appearance. If anyone wants to attract someone, they need to do their best at looking presentable. It's universal. When you're not, you're basically telling yourself that you could care less if you hook up with someone or not (though you know you'd rather not).

You're just not feeling sex anymore. There was a time when someone would just mention sex and you'd be ready to pounce. Now, it just doesn't have that effect. If anything, it just stresses you out or makes you feel uncomfortable. That's definitely saying a lot.

You're always too tired for sex. If you don't consider sex a pick-me-up, then you're doing something wrong. Sex shouldn't be an obligation, it should be something that you strive towards, because it's healthy and it's fun. When you treat it like an issue, it'll only spell disaster.

Surprising Discovery About Women’s Sex Drives, According To Study

You know what they say about people who assume. Never underestimate the power of a woman, or the sex drive. Or her interest! This new study claims women are more interested in sex than their partners. Three words: read her signals!Do you think you're fairly perceptive when it comes to your significant other's needs? Let us know what you think in the comments below.

Underestimation. That’s the name of the game. The Wall Street Journal reports that “men in long-term relationships often underestimate how often their wives or girlfriends want to be intimate.”

Three studies. The psychologists at the University of Toronto and the University of Western Ontario conducted three studies, involving some 200+ couples. 229 to be exact, the large majority of which were heterosexual.

Details. Those involved ranged in age from 18 to 68-years-old. “The couples had been together six years on average,” reports the Wall Street Journal, “and they reported they had sex an average of one to two times a week.”

First study. 44 of the initial 229 couples were asked to keep a diary for three weeks. “Partners reported on their own level of sexual desire each day,” reports the WSJ. They also were asked to report on their perception of their partner’s level of desire and their personal level of satisfaction in the relationship.

Second study. A larger pooling of people was used, 84 couples. They reported once and reported on the same there issues. And in the third study, “101 couples kept a diary for three weeks, reporting on the same three issues.” They were also, however, asked to report how much motivation they felt each day to avoid sexual rejection.

Results. It turns out each study had the exact same results. “Men consistently underestimate their female partner’s desire, while the women had an accurate read on whether or not their partner was interested in sex.”

An interesting bit of information. On the particular days when the men underestimated their partner’s desire, “the women reported being more satisfied in and committed to the relationship,” according to WSJ. Why do the men underestimate their partner’s sexual interest, exactly?

Rejection. Well... fear of it. That’s the reason researchers believe men underestimate their partner’s sexual desire. “If a man initiates sex and his wife rebuffs him,” for example, “he may feel bad or resentful and she may feel annoyed.” He avoids this negative reaction by just assuming she isn’t interested.

Amy Muise. Muise, a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto, says men think it’s better for the state of their relationship to under-perceive how much sex their partner wants to have. It avoids complacency.

The normal amount. The University of Chicago created a study called “The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States.” In it, they found that 80 percent of married couples have sex a few times a month or more.

Other stats. 32 percent of the couples reported have sex two or three times a week. A few times a month was fairly normal for 47 percent of the couples polled.

Higher. Some research has found that men have a higher sex drive. But, according to the WSJ, “in long-term relationships—typically defined as longer than three years—men are equally as likely as women to be the partner with low sexual desire.”

The key? Communication. Sari Cooper, a sex and marriage therapist in NYC, told WSJ, “The problem of women not communicating well about their desire is more complex than couples think. The woman may not really know what she wants sexually, so she has trouble communicating her wishes or would feel uncomfortable following through with what she asked for.”

The remedy. Cooper suggests listening more to your partner and reading their signals. Watching out for their body language. "I will see women in my office who will tell their husband: ‘Remember when I was joking about that sex scene in that movie we saw? Well, I was trying to come onto you,’” Cooper told Refinery29. “He may need something more overt.”

What’s the takeaway? At the end of the day, communication again and again proves to be key in sustaining a healthy sex life. Refinery29 reports that it isn’t necessarily bad that men under-estimate their partner’s sexual interest due to a fear of rejection, because it will prompt some men to try harder.

Sex Mistakes Men Make And How To Avoid Them

Sometimes men can be clueless in bed. But they’re not hopeless. Often talking to him about what you don’t like in your sex life can improve things a lot. Likely, he doesn’t know he’s doing something wrong, but if he did, he’d change. And if he doesn’t, then maybe he doesn’t really care. These are sex mistakes men make and how to avoid them.  Do you make these sex mistakes in bed? What about your boyfriend? Tell us about it in the comments.

No Foreplay. Not warming a girl up is one of the worst sex mistakes a guy can make. Don’t just stick it in. Kissing, caressing, and licking first.

Impersonal. A lot of men think sex is about performing. But it’s about connecting with another human and figuring out what works for them. Don’t just do the same routine over and over again.

Too much. Harder and faster is not always better. Sex isn’t a race. Women’s bodies are sensitive, and too much pressure can make them sore.

No rhythm. Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox told Redbook, "Most women need consistent, repetitive stimulation to orgasm." So don’t spaz out when you’re boning. Keep a steady beat.

Routine. He gets into a sex routine. Every night he pulls the same moves, and she’s never surprised. It’s like "Groundhog Day."

Focused on intercourse. He thinks his penis will make her orgasm. Sex is all penetration. There’s no foreplay or oral, which is boring.

Obsessed with your orgasm. When he keeps asking her if she’s close, it’s annoying. It puts way too much pressure on her, which makes it even harder to climax. Women don’t have to have orgasms every time, sometimes things just don’t work out.

Circus trainer. Another mistake men make is trying too many crazy positions in one night. Being adventurous is great, but don’t assume she’s an acrobat the first time you have sex. Switching it up too much can make it hard for her to finish.

Ends with his orgasm. Sex isn’t over when he’s finished. It’s over when both partners are satisfied. Don’t forget about her.

Can’t read the signs. Some men can’t read you well in bed. They don’t know when you’re getting off, and when you’re bored. Being more vocal about what you want can help.

Too sensitive. Men need to learn to take constructive criticism, even in the bedroom. Nothing’s more annoying than a guy who gets offended at every little thing you say. It’s not personal.

Adult film copycat. This one just tries to re-enact everything he sees in pornography. Which is horrible. Adult films aren’t like real life, and real women don’t get off like that.

Doesn’t pay attention. Maybe he had a long day at the office. Or has other things on his mind. But he’s not paying attention to you, he’s checked out. You might as well not do it if you’re going to act like that.

Jackhammer. It’s all bam-bam-bam. He’s jack-hammering you. "This is the number one complaint of all women, regardless of age," Cox told Redbook.

Too weak. The inverted problem of being too rough is being way too gentle. Don’t put her to sleep. Sex needs to be a little animalistic and dirty.

How Adult Films Are Changing The Male View Of Sex

Porn is hardly anything new. Even before it was instantly accessible via whatever-you're-into dot com, it was in print, and before that it was probably etched in rock for Stone Age pubescents to get off. For as long as nudity's been around (and it's never been around), porn has had a place. But moving past its existence, what has it actually brought with it? Visual pleasure, sure. Something to beat off to, yeah. But what effects has it had in the long run?  What is doing to its male viewers? It may not seem particularly clear on the surface, but if you take a deeper look at the world of pornography, you'll notice some unsavory results. Keep reading to find out how porn is changing the male view of sex.Do you watch a lot of porn? Let us know in the comments!

Taking sides. Everyone has their opinion when it comes to porn. Some may see it as an expression of sexuality, while others may see it as a crude display of the human body. Sex, to its very core, is completely natural, but it's not so much the sex itself that has some people bothered, but what its depiction of sex is doing to some viewers.

Kicking back. It's no mystery that men tend to be more inclined to watching adult entertainment. Guys want to relax after a hard day's work and blow a load to wind down. It's perfectly natural. In their eyes, watching porn just gets them in the mood and helps get the job done faster. But the side effects may vary.

The noticeable effect. It's become clear that adult entertainment is skewing the perception that some men have of sex, and it's not for the better. It's obvious that overexposure of anything will lead to some form of desensitization, and with pornography, it's really no different. Sex is losing its innocence.

The expectations. When you've seen enough of something, you start to envision certain things to follow suit. This idea applies to porn and women. When guys are mostly seeing one specific type of women, to an extent, their subconscious starts to expect that kind of women everywhere. They can't help but not limit it to the video they just jerked off to.

Shaved. If you watch adult entertainment where the woman isn't shaved, it's likely because you're watching a particular kind of porn from a particular kind of category. For the most part, women in porn are shaved. In fact, they're mostly bare down there. When men are seeing this a few times a week (if not daily), then you can imagine what it's telling them about the female population.

Pubic hair. The issue here isn't that men are now disappointed when they're with a girl who isn't shaved down to her skin; it's an issue for the women who feel that that's what they need to do. What's even worse about this situation is that pubic hair isn't just natural, it's healthy. It helps fend off bacteria and keeps genitalia (for both men and women) healthy.

The Big "O." If men want to orgasm, they may as well flick their pants and — BOOM! — orgasm. For women, it's not quite as easy. But with adult entertainment teaching men all of its informational glory, it would have them believe that women orgasm similarly to themselves.

Working for it. Orgasms are (or at least should be) the result of some tender lovemaking. You don't just will it out of somebody's crotch. It takes work, and that's what makes it so satisfying. A lot of men have lost that understanding, and they just assume a woman will finished at around the same time they are.

Speaking of orgasms... With adult entertainment playing such a vital role in a man's life, to them, sex is really mostly about getting off. It's all about achieving the release. In that case, they tend to simply focus more on getting themselves off than making it a mutual experience.

Protection. If you're looking for condoms in adult entertainment, you'll find that they're rarer than a Mewtwo in Pokemon GO. This is disconcerting. The fact is that, although condoms may decrease some of the sensitivity during sex, they're obviously vital. We don't use condoms just to prevent pregnancy, so relying on the morning after pill won't hold up. There are more pressing matters at hand.

STIs. There's more to sex than pleasure and pregnancy. There is also the risk of transmitting diseases and infections. Condoms help decrease this risk substantially. So, even though porn stars may make sex seem like a danger-free zone, keep in mind that there are major precautionary measures taken before a porno is shot.

Whenever, wherever. With adult entertainment being so easy to access, the idea of acquiring sex seems like it should be just as easy for some men. This tends to bring out their more aggressive sides, and it's not doing anyone's favor. It gives them a sense of false entitlement, that they should get what they want when they want it.

The expectations. Adult entertainment is giving men all the wrong ideas about women. It gives them false expectations about what a woman wants and how men ought to treat them. It's essentially created an illusion between pornography and reality, and not all men seem to know the difference.

The distance. Aside from the expectations that men have with women through adult entertainment, there is also an emotional divide. Pleasure has become so easily accessible, that an emotional connection doesn't feel as necessary.

To them, sex has become primarily about the physical, and hardly about the emotional.