What Is A Pearl Necklace — And Why Men Love It

It's not the necklace you think.

The topic of discussion is pearls, and no, it's not the kind that come from under the sea. These pearls are made up of seamen. See what I did there? 

OK, you may have heard of a pearl necklace as it relates to sex, but do you really know what is a pearl necklace and why you would want one? The pearl necklace is one of the best ways to add a little kink into your sex life without really diving too far in. It’s a good starter sex act to find out how comfortable you are with someone new.

Essentially, giving someone a pearl necklace means that a man orgasms on someone’s chest or neck, with the drops of semen looking like individual pearls. How creative, right?

A pearl necklace is the result of another sexual act that precedes it, like a hand or blowjob. "Tittyf*cking" is another popular choice because, well, location, location, location.

In her book Guide To Wicked Sex, Jessica Drake, a porn star and sex educator, shares some insight on the pearl necklace. She argues that the pearl necklace is a great alternative to a facial (when a guy ejaculates on someone’s face) since it’s a lot less invasive and is easier to talk to a partner about. She says that a pearl necklace is especially useful when experimenting with a new partner so that you can see how much and how far he orgasms before letting him ejaculate in other places.

If you want to try out this sex practice out, wait until a time when you are giving a handjob or blowjob and when your partner is about to orgasm, aim their penis at your neck or chest. It might be best to communicate your plan before the act so your partner can let you know when they are about to ejaculate.

However, if you want your partner to be in charge, just let him know that you are OK with the pearl necklace so he knows his boundaries. Have fun and be careful not to get any in your eyes.

YES, Orgasm-Induced Headaches Are A Real Thing

Whether it was in an old movie or out of your grandma’s mouth, you’ve probably heard the old, cliché “Not tonight, I have a headache.” If haven’t (you’re not missing out), just know it’s alluding to the old stereotype that women fake headaches to get out of sex. Puhlease.

Okay, rant over. But it turns out that there is a connection between sex and headaches. Only it’s the reverse.

That’s right, sex or, more specifically, orgasm-induced headaches are actually more common than you might believe.

And it’s ruining fun for men and women.

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Women (and men) can experience headaches brought on by sexual excitement and orgasms, called primary sexual headaches, says Isha Gupta, M.D., a neurologist from IGEA Brain and Spine of New Jersey and New York.

Though experts aren’t exactly sure why these headaches happen, they fall under the category of exertion-related headaches, which are also triggered by exercise, says Sherry A. Ross, M.D., ob-gyn, author of She-ology: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health.

One theory is that the headache may be brought on by the adrenaline that floods the body during intense activity, says Ross. “The adrenaline rush occurs during the excitement phase, and then the letdown period, when the orgasm occurs, brings on the headache,” she says.

Another theory is that when a person coughs, has an orgasm, or strains in general, it increases pressure in the head, which may contribute to this kind of headache, says Gupta.

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Regardless of why these sex headaches happen, they usually feel like a dull ache in the head and neck or a sudden, severe, throbbing headache immediately upon achieving an orgasm, says Gupta. Though that can be a serious buzz kill post-O, the headaches often disappear after a few minutes, says Gupta.

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And unlike that woman with a headache = no sex joke, men are actually more likely to get this sex-related headache than women. It is also more likely to strike if you get migraines frequently.

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You should visit a doctor after the first time this happens, just to make sure it’s not something serious, says Ross.

Generally, though, treatment includes less intense sexual activity (sorry), anti-inflammatory drugs, and beta-blockers one hour prior to sexual activity, says Ross. 

5 Essential Orgasm Tips For Women

Even if you've never been able to before, with these tricks you can have a great orgasm every time.

In this article I'm going to show you how to have an orgasm every time, whether you're with your man or are simply giving yourself a little self pleasure. You'll quickly realise and learn while reading that having really strong orgasms is surprisingly simple. Here are the 5 things you need to do.

(P.S. If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques for building sexual tension & turning him on, you’ll find them in this powerful video)

1. Start Off Alone: If you have difficulty reaching orgasm with your man during sex, then the best thing to do is to take the pressure off and start learning how to orgasm on your own. The reason is simply because orgasming when masturbating on your own is much easier. As well as being easier to orgasm by masturbating on your own, it's also important to pay attention to the things that turn you on and really get you going. This is so that when you are with your man you know what to do to get yourself closer to orgasm. It could be a fantasy, a position or a certain way you touch your clitoris. Try to discover these things on your own and then use them to your advantage when you are with your man. (If you want to learn detailed advice on how to give your man great oral sex, then click here.)
2. Learn To Relax: The next step to cover when learning how to come is finding a way to relax and really accept your sexuality. For most people, relaxing requires them to be with a guy they totally trust and be in a place where they are totally at ease. When you're with a guy that you totally trust, then you'll naturally be more at ease. But when you're with a guy that you feel you have to impress, then you'll start to feel "performance pressure," which in turn makes it harder to reach orgasm. For most people, a place that they feel comfortable in is their bedroom when there is nobody else around.
3. What Position Works Best: If you are new to sex or inexperienced, then you may not have found what positions work best for you. Finding the right sexual positions when learning how to reach orgasm is absolutely crucial to learning how to come with your man. If you are looking for examples of which positions work best, you will find over 100 (with professional photographs) on this site here. For some people they find that they can only orgasm when having doggy style sex, while others need to have sex in positions where their man is directly stimulating their clit. The important thing here is to do lots of experimentation with your man until you find what works best for you.
4. Toys, Toys, Toys: Using sex toys to help you to reach orgasm is not cheating when learning how to orgasm. Whether you are masturbating alone or are having sex with your man, sex toys can offer you that extra bit of stimulation to help drive you over the edge and reach orgasm. There are many awesome sex toys that you can use to help you to orgasm.
5. Get The Right Sex Advice: Learning how to come and reach orgasm should only be the beginning of your journey to having great sex with your man. Included in this journey should be learning how to talk talk dirty to your man (You might like this powerful video that will teach you how) as well as how to give your man perfect oral sex .

How To Have An Orgasm Using The A-Spot

With the A-spot, the key to orgasm isn’t touch, it’s pressure and movement.

By S. Nicole Lane

Contrary to belief, the G-Spot isn’t the only way to achieve an orgasm during intercourse. Let me introduce to you, with much enthusiasm, the A-Spot.

The Anterior Fornix Erogenous zone is an area of sensitivity that is located at the back end of the clitoris, where the wall begins to curve upwards. The A-Spot is beyond the G-Spot, just above the cervix, and can be located during anal sex. It’s known as the equivalent of the male prostate; however, it can be found during PIV penetration and foreplay as well.

Only 11% of women have discovered this zone, which is quite honestly, a shame. We have zones, people, let’s find ’em and awaken ’em!

How do you stimulate the A-Spot?

To begin, like any type of foreplay, trim your nails and insert a clean and lubricated finger into the deepest point in your vagina. Once you locate a round and firm area in the vagina, you know you have reached the cervix. Move your finger, gently, over this area like a windshield wiper.

Since the A-Spot is located at the back of the vagina, fingers or anal sex can trigger this zone. But don’t worry, a long penis isn’t necessary for accessing the A-Spot. A vagina’s average length is less than 3 inches, making it possible to reach in various positions with penetration.

But with the A-spot, the key to orgasm isn’t touch, it’s pressure and movement, says sexual health excerpt Jennifer Berman, M.D.

Unlike the G-Spot, which incorporates the “come here” motion, the A-Spot doesn’t respond to this movement because it applies too much pressure to the area.

As said before, the A-Spot can also be found during anal sex. The indirect stimulation between the vagina and the rectum can trigger the back side where the A-Spot is located.

What’s so great about the A-Spot?

The Malaysian doctor who discovered the A-Sport in the 1990s, Dr. Chua Chee Ann, says that stimulating this area can increase lubrication in women. Reaching the A-Spot 10 minutes a day can greatly improve vaginal dryness.

In 1985, Dr. Chua was in New Delhi at the Asian Conference of Sexology when he saw a video about the phenomenon of female ejaculation. He thought about the transference of fluid and how female ejaculation could be channeled in order to create vaginal lubrication for those experiencing dryness. Dr. Chua found the A-Spot in 1989 and conducted clinical trials between 1990-1994 in 271 women who were experiencing vaginal dryness.

Moreover, the stimulation of the A-Spot can create several intense orgasms. The clitoris can suffer from post-orgasm sensitivity, but the A-Spot does not. What does this mean? It means no rest periods are required when arousing the A-Spot.

The A-Spot, also known as the deep spot, is all about experimentation. In addition to this erogenous zone, there is the U-Spot, the G-Spot, the P-Spot, and the K-Spot — phew! A serious world to explore which make it hard to come up with an excuse for the orgasm gap to even exist. Let’s close it, one spot at a time.