Why Orgasm Denial And Chastity Play Make For The Most POWERFUL Orgasms

Denial can be sexier than you ever knew...
By engaging in chastity play, you can learn the pleasuring, teasing, and yes, sometimes torment of orgasm denial. Chastity play allows you to discover that sexual fulfillment isn't always about instant gratification (which is often a shock to first timers).
If you're ready to enrich your and your partner's sexual appetites, orgasm denial and chastity play may be just what you need.
Chastity play
 isn't something new. It has actually been around for centuries.
The kinky practice of BDSM chastity play involves denying yourself sexual stimulation and giving control of your sexual needs to someone else. This someone else is also known as the key holder.
Chastity play can have different meanings for each person who participates and those meanings can be very personal. Whether it's the relationship between submissives to their key holders, willingness and desire of both to please each other or to give or receive more meaningful orgasms, each person can have a unique experience during chastity play.
Chastity play is not about total abstinence as many might think. It's about prolonged orgasms and giving up sexual control so you don't know when or if your key holder will allow you an orgasmic release.People who engage in chastity play don't always have sex once released from their chastity device
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There are other ways to reach sexual satisfaction. It can be about pleasuring yourself while your key holder watches then locks you back up in your chastity device afterward. The possibilities are endless!
Differing from other fetishes, chastity play prolongs your orgasms in order to achieve greater sexual satisfaction. You're giving over control to someone else, the key holder, who determines when you may receive sexual pleasure. All this can be a very erotic experience.How to find a playmate if you're single.
Chastity play works best if you're currently in a relationship where you can be open with your partner to discuss your sexual fantasies. However, if you're single there are options available to allow you to practice chastity play.
One option is to hire a mistress who specializes in male chastity play. This ensures your first experience will be with a professional with experience in chastity play. This is a great option for a first timer who needs someone to help introduce you to the ins and outs of chastity play.
After you've found your match, the next step is to schedule an appointment or date. You should draw up a contract with the key holder that outlines what you have agreed on, what is expected of both parties and states a release date of your chastity device.
The key holder will obviously be the person who holds the key to the chastity device so you don't cheat.
However, it's always a good idea to have a spare key in case of emergency. This is one area where trust and honesty come into play.
Always start off slowly at first with chastity play.
It's a new experience and I recommend only one or two days of being locked in your chastity device to begin with. This allows your private areas to adjust to the chastity device, as it can be very irritating at first for some.
Plan a date to meet at a hotel with your key holder so they can release you from your chastity device, or have your key holder surprise you for some extra excitement. Remember that it's not always about having sex with your key holder, especially if the two of you agreed not to have sex but did agree you can masturbate once released from the device.
Once your key holder releases you and allows you pleasure, he or she should lock you back into your chastity device and leave. Just make sure that you clean yourself along with your chastity device before putting it back on.
This is the time for you to evaluate your experience and decide of you want to continue with chastity play. If you both decide to continue, make another date but make sure this time you schedule a longer period of time.
You can even try chastity play completely solo!
Finally, you can always play chastity play alone, especially if you're unsure if you will enjoy it and want to try it out solo before getting someone else involved. You just need to be honest with yourself when flying solo.
Start by signing a contract with yourself along with a release date.Put the key somewhere safe as mentioned above. An alternative is to mail the key to yourself so that it gets to you in a few days and you have time to experiment with chastity play. Just remember to always have a spare key in case of emergencies to avoid an awkward locksmith call.
Try it out for a few days at first to see how you like it then unlock your chastity device and pleasure yourself. You can tease yourself first before unlocking your chastity device by looking at pornographic magazines, watching porn or going to a strip club.
If you want to try chastity play again, do it for a longer period of time. When you feel ready you can see about finding someone to play with you as mentioned above.
If you're already in a relationship, how do you bring up the idea of chastity play?
For those of you in a relationship, you now have to think of someone else's needs besides your own. Bringing up any fetish to your partner can be hard especially if you have known them for a long time and have never brought the topic up before.
They may think that they're not satisfying you sexually, you're not happy in the relationship, or may think your fetish perverse. It might be hard for them to tell if you've just recently wanted to try chastity play, or if you'd had this desire for awhile.
All partners like to think they're approachable when it comes to talking about sex. They may be, but it can be difficult to talk about your sexual fantasies. My best advice is to be open and honest with your partner and to encourage communication, but that is easier said than done.
In order to approach your partner, you need to know what it is about the fetish that you like and what you want to get out of it for the both of you, not just you. You have to know your desires well enough to communicate them to your partner so they can better understand how it can bring pleasure to you both.

Start by sharing each other's sexual fantasies.Ask your partner what one of their fetishes or fantasies are and promise to try it. When it is your turn to share, mention chastity play.
If this happens, remove the chastity device until the area has healed. Be sure to keep a close eye on the area and look for signs of infection.
Remember hygiene is very important. More irritation and infection can occur if you don't wash your genital area. Be sure to clean your device daily as bacteria can build up on the device and provide a further threat to infection.
Cleaning can be done with the device on and most key holders and submissives prefer the device is worn all the time. Most devices today are made to allow the person wearing them to use the bathroom and clean themselves.
Is chastity play for you?
For those who are new to chastity play and want to learn more about adding it into your sex lives may wonder how you begin. First, you need to decide if this is something you would really like to try