Approaching Groups Of Women

We’ve already covered how to approach a group of women, but the Player can never get enough practice, and the more training you have under your belt, the better. When you’re approaching groups of women, you’re under the looking glass with an uphill battle — a shunning en masse is just one bad pickup line away. However, it doesn’t have to be like this, and the one problem guys make for themselves when approaching groups of women is conceding defeat without even trying. Here are a few tips to help you conquer those pessimistic fears and wow the crowd.

Analyze the situation

You wouldn’t go hunting in the wild without having a game plan, would you? The same principles apply to a group-pickup setting, and a strategy will help you conquer the pack. Understanding the type of group is critical to your success — where they are, what they’re there for and how tough it will be to break their walls with your approach. Is it a birthday? A stagette? Or just a girls' night out? Keep your eye out and see if the group is approachable; knowing why the pack exists can measure your level of success. Also, check for guys in the group and see what your chances might be. You may have to become bar buddies with them to get the VIP access to their girlfriend, but it’s a bullet worth taking to go home a happy Player.

Address them as a group

If you’re approaching a group of women, address them as a group. The approach must not include you singling out your target right off the bat; you’re going to have to do some convincing to prove your worth.

There are some tricks to doing this. First off, never approach the group from the side; it looks like you’re trying to weasel your way in and taking the coward’s approach by trying to avoid conversation. Approach them from the front. Second, make eye contact, smile and introduce yourself to all of them. This will help even out all their ranks in the pecking order. Then, take the focus of your target (who you’ll get to know more about through casual conversation with the group). Acknowledging their presence as more than a sum of their parts is integral to the next step in the process.

Be original

If you’re going to put yourself out on a limb, the worst thing you can do is panic… so don’t. Instead, walk into the lion’s den with two things in mind: confidence and creativity.

The best way to make the approach is with a certain level of entertainment value, and one that involves engaging each of their personalities. Therefore, you’ll have a huge advantage if you start with a great conversation topic. Remember, this isn’t a normal pickup — engaging more than one woman has to be a charming experience that will ultimately let the others’ guards down. Just don’t let them sucker you into buying them drinks or doing their bidding — it’s very easy to fall into that trap when dealing with a pack mentality.

Divide and conquer

Groups of women have a commanding power in the room that overwhelms. And the more women that are in the group, the more they can strike out like a regimented platoon. Dividing and conquering is your best bet, and it takes patience and a strong game plan.

Find the “mother hen.” Identify the leader of the pack and find out how closely she holds her chicks together (again, the type of party will give an indication.) If you’ve sold them with your original approach, they’ll drop their guards and consider you a non-threat. This is right time to make your move. Earning the trust of the pack is the only way to draw her into a more intimate setting.

Bring wingmen

There’s strength in numbers, and if you’re approaching a bigger group, the more sense it makes to bring friends. Your buddies can help take the tension off so you can entertain and socialize with the other women while you focus your efforts on the belle of the pack. This is a win-win scenario for both groups because the ladies might find a variety of personalities far more interesting than one pathetic guy putting all of his efforts on the line.

There is an important rule, though — never arrive at their doorstep with all the guys at once — it will look like you’re just a pack of horny, rabid meat-heads. Get the smooth talker in your group to go up first, and have him immediately start introducing friends, one-by-one. A gradual easing of the guy-girl ratio is a far more graceful approach.

strength in numbers

Approaching groups of women is a difficult task, but not impossible, especially with more practice. Muster up the confidence, don’t think too hard about your approach and be able to deal with rejection — good Players know that practice makes perfect.