Make no bones about it: women are sensual creatures — touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound. Satisfying all of these senses is vital to the successful pursuit of a lady, and they all work together to create a synergy that can send a chill up any woman’s spine. However, although this is what we strive to be as companions and providers (if that's your thing), it doesn’t happen upfront and all at once. A certain degree of trust must be built, and a man can earn it by making her feel comfortable. Trust comes through comfort, and romance comes though trust. See the pattern? Making her comfortable is one of the necessary steps in the path to winning her heart. There are some great ways to making her feel comfortable, and you don’t have to bend over backwards to do them. Follow these trusty Player methods, and your approach will ease all those relationship tensions.Touch
For this sense, it’s probably best to talk about ”comfort” in terms of what a woman calls her ”comfort zone.“ Basically, women put up an invisible shield to protect themselves against unwanted advances of lusting men. We’ve all been blocked by it at some point, so this shouldn’t be anything you haven’t already seen. However, gentle and brief contact with a woman is a good way to establish a form of intimacy that she might enjoy, and a lot of guys unfortunately overlook this. Rather, it is this sense that men have to be most knowledgeable about.
There are particular motions and gestures you can use in making her feel comfortable and to improve your chances with your lady, if done with a sense of class and timing. For example, when you’re walking through a crowd (say, at a bar or a concert), shield her with your arm around her shoulder, or at least a hand on her back. This will show her your ability to assert yourself, to take control of a situation and it is just enough ”touch” to skim the surface for something further down the line. Most women are not celibate, but they do like their zone respected. Find a situation where you can exert your physical presence with a sense of class by making her feel comfortable.
Smell
Did you ever notice that certain smells can trigger certain reactions and feelings in your everyday life? Crisp air, for example, always gives us a refreshing enlightenment, while pungent and nasty odors make our noses curl with disgust. Women are just as sensitive to smells as you are, and you can take advantage of it to make her comfortable in your arms.
Manufacturers have been dispensing body sprays, colognes and perfumes that claim to be pheromone-induced for maximum sexual attraction. Now, while that claim is largely disputed, your scent will leave a lasting impression on a woman of any nasal creed. Wear something that fits your persona or character (not too overwhelming), and always make sure to keep clean of any toxins emitting from your body (that means taking a shower after a workout instead of heading straight to the bar).
But it’s not just you that has to smell fab; things around you do too. If you’re making her feel comfortable, choose restaurants that aren’t especially garlicky or fishy. And maybe don’t opt for a walk near the pulp mill or Chinatown.
Taste
They say the easiest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach; surely women can sing to the same tune. After all, what woman doesn’t love a man that knows his away around the kitchen? Stimulate her taste buds with a tantalizing meal (and I’m talking about quality cookery; as much as you may worship canned ravioli, she probably won’t be as easily convinced).
A dynamite way to making her feel comfortable is with comfort food. Whether you take her out to a fancy restaurant or wine and dine her at home, a good meal can be a welcoming invitation into her bedroom. Nothing spells comfort like a satisfying meal, so don’t hold out on her appetite (and don’t forget the desert — did I mention chocolate was an aphrodisiac?)
Sight
Taste buds are one thing, but a visual feast for the eyes is another. Romantic, inspirational and always hard to draw your eyes from, nothing beats good scenery for making your woman feel comfortable. So, go out somewhere where there's lots to look at; sit near the window or outside on a patio. Part of the idea here is to have some “distraction” buffers in case conversation starts getting stale.
And let’s not forget about you; you’re as equally important for her sight sensors. She may enjoy some good scenery, but it isn’t much if she can’t draw the same emotion when her eyes cross yours. Keep yourself in shape, dress right, maintain proper hygiene (including hair and skin), and groom yourself for success. You want to look great for her too, right? Players are striking, well-tailored men; you’ll want to follow suit (no pun intended).
Sound
A few years ago, I used to be quite an avid guitar player (but I’ve since switched the strings with an SLR). However, musical talent, if you’ve got it, never goes away, and it can be like honey to bees; women swoon over a man’s aptitude for instruments. They’ll melt if you can strum a chord or two.
Music is one way of making her feel comfortable. However, being a good listener in general is a solid way of winning your way to her heart. Want to give her a sound that she’ll feel comfortable with? Try silence. Nothing turns a woman off more than a guy who loves the sound of his own voice. Don’t go on and on about what a great guy you are… try holding your tongue and letting her speak for a change. Trust me — the silence will be like music to her ears.
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