Sex Mistakes Men Make And How To Avoid Them

Sometimes men can be clueless in bed. But they’re not hopeless. Often talking to him about what you don’t like in your sex life can improve things a lot. Likely, he doesn’t know he’s doing something wrong, but if he did, he’d change. And if he doesn’t, then maybe he doesn’t really care. These are sex mistakes men make and how to avoid them.  Do you make these sex mistakes in bed? What about your boyfriend? Tell us about it in the comments.

No Foreplay. Not warming a girl up is one of the worst sex mistakes a guy can make. Don’t just stick it in. Kissing, caressing, and licking first.

Impersonal. A lot of men think sex is about performing. But it’s about connecting with another human and figuring out what works for them. Don’t just do the same routine over and over again.

Too much. Harder and faster is not always better. Sex isn’t a race. Women’s bodies are sensitive, and too much pressure can make them sore.

No rhythm. Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox told Redbook, "Most women need consistent, repetitive stimulation to orgasm." So don’t spaz out when you’re boning. Keep a steady beat.

Routine. He gets into a sex routine. Every night he pulls the same moves, and she’s never surprised. It’s like "Groundhog Day."

Focused on intercourse. He thinks his penis will make her orgasm. Sex is all penetration. There’s no foreplay or oral, which is boring.

Obsessed with your orgasm. When he keeps asking her if she’s close, it’s annoying. It puts way too much pressure on her, which makes it even harder to climax. Women don’t have to have orgasms every time, sometimes things just don’t work out.

Circus trainer. Another mistake men make is trying too many crazy positions in one night. Being adventurous is great, but don’t assume she’s an acrobat the first time you have sex. Switching it up too much can make it hard for her to finish.

Ends with his orgasm. Sex isn’t over when he’s finished. It’s over when both partners are satisfied. Don’t forget about her.

Can’t read the signs. Some men can’t read you well in bed. They don’t know when you’re getting off, and when you’re bored. Being more vocal about what you want can help.

Too sensitive. Men need to learn to take constructive criticism, even in the bedroom. Nothing’s more annoying than a guy who gets offended at every little thing you say. It’s not personal.

Adult film copycat. This one just tries to re-enact everything he sees in pornography. Which is horrible. Adult films aren’t like real life, and real women don’t get off like that.

Doesn’t pay attention. Maybe he had a long day at the office. Or has other things on his mind. But he’s not paying attention to you, he’s checked out. You might as well not do it if you’re going to act like that.

Jackhammer. It’s all bam-bam-bam. He’s jack-hammering you. "This is the number one complaint of all women, regardless of age," Cox told Redbook.

Too weak. The inverted problem of being too rough is being way too gentle. Don’t put her to sleep. Sex needs to be a little animalistic and dirty.