Breaking men down. Men are anomalies. You think you have them figured out, and then they essentially change the rules on you. When it comes to sex, especially, their “pressure points” might seem obvious enough, but you’d be surprised how specific they all really are.
Playtime. Sex is one thing, but sex toys may as well be an entirely different species altogether. Though most guys would be thrilled to have an extra somethin’ somethin’ to get their buttons pushed, very few of them are going to tell you so. Integrating toys into the bedroom is going to be something of a challenge…
From guy to guy. Every man is different. This is obvious enough. But it’s especially true when it comes to what turns them on. Everybody knows there’s more than one way to skin a cat. But did you know there’s more than one way to pleasure a d*ck?
Know your man. If your guy isn’t down to open up about what kind of toys he’s willing to experiment with, you’ll just have to read in between the lines. If he’s given even the slightest indication that he wants you to play with his hole (we’re talking butts here), ease him in with a dildo.
Butt action. A straight guy imagining a penis-shaped object thrusting into his anus is going to put him on edge. Most guys will just assume that it’s “gay” and will refuse it completely. The fact of the matter is, enjoying anal play doesn’t make a guy gay. Being attracted to another man will make him gay (or at least leaning in that direction on the Kinsey scale). Butt play just feels good.
The mental block. Once you’ve gotten your man around the idea of at least trying anal play out, you’re good to go. But even this far along, you’ll need to ease him through it. Luckily for the both of you, sex toy manufacturers keep the shy guy in mind, designing male-oriented dildos that are meant to cause anything but shock upon first glance.
Sizes aplenty. Even if your guy secretly wants a giant dildo so far up his a** that he’d need a full bottle of lube to satisfy the extent of his anal desires, he’s not going to tell you that. That’s why butt plugs are handy. They’re small, unintimidating and pocket-sized, so there’s really nothing for him to freak out over.
Put a ring on it. The safest bet you’ve probably got for sex toys is a c*ck ring. Not only is it easy to use and probably the furthest thing from embarrassing him, it’s pleasurable for the both of you. So if he’s not acting like he’s excited to use it (even though he’ll love it once he actually does), tell him that it’s more for you than it is for him.
Follow the (flesh) light. When it comes to turning a guy on, as long as he has a hole to stick his penis into, he’ll be happy. It might seem sad, but it’s true. This is exactly why the fleshlight is a genius design. It’s easy to use, it’s got a hole, and it’ll make him feel great.
Fleshlights galore. When you imagine a fleshlight (it looks just like a flashlight, but it’s got an artificial vagina at the tip instead of a light), you might assume that once you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. This isn’t true. What is true, however, is that once you know your guy well enough, you’ll know exactly what design will be perfect for him.
Hole-in-(more than) one. Fleshlights can look as different as real vaginas look. Some are more detailed, some are as basic as you can imagine. Depending on your man’s taste, there’s a fleshlight out there that’ll be perfect for him.
His P-spot. No, we’re not talking about his penis. We’re talking about his prostate. If your guy is looking for an extra something, but isn’t totally down for a straight up dildo, prostate massagers may be the way to go. They’re low-key. They vibrate. They’re just enough to give his orgasm an extra kick, without him feeling too emasculated.
Extra Oomph. Not every guy is exactly packing much weight below the belt, and that’s OK. Every body’s different. But in the event that he wants to bring something extra into the bedroom, there’s a penis extension. Maybe don’t thrust this onto him without him bringing it up first, though…
One sleeve fits all. If you want to add something to the bedroom without making him feel like he’s not offering enough as it is, you might be able to sell him on the idea of a pleasure sleeve. It’s a silicon sleeve that goes over his erection that stimulates both him and you.
Easing. When it comes to bringing toys into the bedroom, there’s no need to hurry. If buying one on your own and revealing it to him in the moment is something you know your man isn’t going to go for, then communicate. Talk it out. Go shopping at a sex store together (either online or at a physical store). When it comes to sex, shyness should be the last thing on the table.
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