Your Aggressive Sexual Fantasies And The Safest Ways To Enjoy Them

Believe it or not, a large amount of men and women have a fantasy that involves rape or aggressive sexual dominance fantasies. The problem is that many people might want to actually experience their fantasy acted out in one sense or another. Rape play, by nature alone, is very difficult to keep safe, sane, and consensual. If you want to actually move forward with your rape fantasy, you need to take special precautions in order to ensure that nothing bad happens to you or your partner. You need to ensure that no one gets hurt, no one breaks any laws, and that the boundaries are strict and understood prior. Here’s what sexperts suggest for fetishists that want to carry out their rape fantasy in a safe, smart, consensual way.Do you have fantasies like this? Let us know in the comments section below.

First, You Need To Find Someone Who Is Willing To Do It With You. Even if it’s rape fantasy, you still need to keep things consensual. Otherwise, it’s not rape fantasy - it’s actual rape and can cause serious lasting damage to someone.

Where Do You Meet Your “Rapist?” The best way to find someone who will engage with you and be on the same page with you is to check out kink groups in your area. If you’re not aware of a local group, you might also want to check out sites like Fetlife or CollarMe.

Keep An Eye Out For Red Flags. Because of the nature of this kind of kink, you really have to be careful when it comes to choosing a partner. If you get bad vibes from them, or if someone warns you about them, pay heed and choose someone else.

If You Want To Talk To Your Partner About It, Keep An Eye Out For The Possibility Of Having Been Assaulted. If you want to “rape” your partner, it may be a trigger moment for them. It’s best not to broach this subject if your partner has been sexually assaulted in the past. That being said, if you already have a lot of aggressive, kinky sex, discussing this fantasy may be easier.

Don’t Choose A Total Stranger For This. Anyone with any sense could tell you why this is a bad idea. You need to talk things out, at the very least.

You’re Going To Need To Talk About Things… You need to establish a safe word in case things get too crazy. The best safe word is something that will never be uttered in a normal sex session - such as “banana” or “Mickey Mouse.”

Explain Your Hard Limits. This is a good time to explain things that you do not want to have happen, regardless of how intense it gets. Things such as being beaten, choked out, or having a knife pulled on you might be things you need to discuss with your partner before you act things out.

Talk Birth Control. You may need to discuss whether or not condoms will be allowed. Most rapes do not involve birth control, so you might have to bend reality.

Find A Place Where It’s Okay To Play. While you might want to try to act out a fantasy in a bar, having someone pretend to slip things in your drink could potentially get your kink partner beaten, arrested, or even banned from the bar.

However, There Is A Caveat Here. If you’re friends with the bartender you may be able to arrange something. Similarly, if you explain things ahead of time you’ll be able to have it be more acceptable.

Some Bad Locations To Avoid… Doing this kind of play in public is a very bad idea, primarily because it can lead to an arrest. If you’re going to have it done in your house, you want to avoid giving your neighbors reason to be concerned. After all, there’s no guarantee that they might not want to try to call the cops.

Good Locations To Try Include… It’s often a good idea to have the play session happen in your house or at your office after hours.

Then Try To Come Up With A Good Time. You don’t have to give a full “appointment” vibe to it. Just talk about the general time that it may happen.

After Your Session, Follow Up With After Care. You need to comfort your partner and take care of the emotional or physical after effects of your session. Talk about how you feel, how things went, and if it’s something you want to try again. Hug each other. Cuddle. Just show that you care for one another!

Repeat? If you like it, there’s no harm in making it a regular thing - as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual. Knowing when the fantasy went too far and when to report something is key as well. Boundaries are crucial.